the Rollercoaster continues!!

There are times in your life, when you are so blessed that you forget that there are low points in life. When you are up, you are doing great and everything is going your way. When the lows come, it hits you hard! I am learning the hard way to ride this rollercoaster of life as a single woman and mother. And let me just say it is tough. I have been very blessed, more than I deserve to be, or ever thought I could be, but have forgotten about the important things in life. After the sell of the house, everything was going well, but like all things money runs low and it all gets tight! I am now working three jobs to make ends meet for me and the girls, and I am not gonna lie, I am worn out. We are in a major low, and I was reminded today that it could always be worse. But where am I looking to find comfort? I am looking to my friends and family of course, but have noticed that recently I have taken my focus off of God!

I am just like everyone before me, I am on the same path as many, but I am still looking down!! I have many theme songs in life and right now the one that sums it up the most is the one that brings my life into focus as soon as it starts playing!!


I will not be Moved!

I have been a wayward child
I have acted out
I have questioned sovreignty
and had my share of doubts

And though sometimes
my prayers feel like they're
bouncin off the sky
the hand that holds I won't let go
and here's the reason why

I will stumble, i will fall down
But I will not be moved
I will make mistakes, I will face Heartaches
But I will not be Moved

On c]Christ the solid Rock I stand
all other ground is sinking sand
I will not be moved

Bitterness has plagued my heart
many times before
My life has been a broken glass
and I have kept the score
of all the shattered dreams
and though it seemed
that I was far too gone
My brokenness helped me to see
It's GRACE I'm standing on

I will stumble, I will fall down
But I will not be moved
I will make mistakes
I will face heartache
But I will not be moved

On Christ the solid ROCK I stand
all other ground is sinking sand
I will not be moved

And the chaos in my life
has been a badge of war
and though I have been torn
I willnot be moved

I will not be moved
I will make mistakes
I will face heartaches
but I will not be moved

On Christ the solid ROck i stand
all other ground is sinking sand
I will not be moved



This is the my life right now summed up into a powerful song!! I love it, it is by Natalie Grant!!

It's been official for a whole week!

Last Monday at 1:45pm my marriage to Chase was officially over! It has been a very long 6 months, but it is now a done deal, no looking back. It is time to look forward and move on, for the girls sake and for my own. It is weird having been married for so long, and now to be SINGLE again. I am amazed at how things have changed over the past 12 years. I have never really though about what single moms go thru, until now. It is hard, a constant juggling act. You have to make time for everything, and you put yourself last every time. There is not anymore me time, except for when Chase has the girls. But even then I tend to work on the house and laundry and grocery shopping.

I have been reflecting on what it is that I want in life, and i have a mental list that I keep. It is gonna be an interesting adventure, I just hope that I am up for the ride! This past week has been a tough one. My emotions have been a roller coaster, with all of the ups and downs, happy to sad in 2 seconds flat. the girls are doing well, but I have them signed up to start counseling next week. They are needing to talk to someone, and I have found a girl from Harding that works really well with children. I think she is just what we need, and she will help the girls to deal with all of their stress that has come from the divorce.

Hopefully all of you reading are having a great week! Thnk you for your thoughts and prayers!

Your Grace is Enough

Great is your faithfulness,
Oh God of Jacob
You wrestle with
the sinner's restless heart
You lead me by still waters
into mercy
where nothing can keep us apart
So, remember your people
remember your children
Remember your promise
Oh God
For Your grace is enough
Your grace is enough
Your grace is enough for Me

Great is Your love and justice
God of Jacob
You use the weak to lead the strong
You lead us in the song of Heaven's victory
And all your people sing along
So remember your people
remember your children
remember your promise Oh God

For your Grace is enough
your Grace is enough
your Grace is enough
For your Grace is enough
for me

So remember your people
remember your children
remember your promise Oh God

For your grace is enough
your grace is enough
your grace is enough for me

A new Creation

We have had a great couple of weeks! I am going to admit to something, that I probably shouldn't! Before our world became topsy turvy, I was not much of one to sit and pray. I thought I was doing a good enough job, but I so was not doing anything but box checking. It has become more apparent to me over the last few weeks as I have watched Emma in school. She started this school year hating it. She acted up during class, and came home on yellow most of the days of the week. (shocking I know) She has had a rough start, so we decided to turn things around out our little house. We have changed some things, and the biggest one is how we pray. Not just for dinner anymore, or before bed. We pray all the time, and we pray for specific things. We pray every night for Emma, and her behavior in school. We pray that God protect us from harm in our little house every day. We pray for each other, and we try to keep a prayer in our hearts all day long. The girls babysitter this summer, told them that when they needed someone to talk to they could always talk to God. They have been doing it ever since. I think that by watching them I was convicted to do the same. There is nothing more powerful than listening to your babies pray.
I have sat outside the door and listened to Emma praying for her sister and her friends and family. She always asks God to help her act right at school too. I try to remember in the mornings to let her know that i am praying for her to have a good day, and i remind her that God is with her all the time watching over her. I am amazed at how just saying that has reassured her and helped her grow in her love of God.
We have started listening to KLOVE on the radio, and the positive message that has come from that is also helping with the girls.
NOW I am not saying that there is not any fighting in our little home, because we are 3 females living together, but it has not been as bad as it was in the beginning of the year. Granted when these little girls grow up and we have all of the HORMONES flowing thru this house, we will be praying a very different prayer! But for right now there is a new attitude and spirit in this house!

Your Grace is Enough

Great is your Faithfulness
Oh God of Jacob
You wrestle with the Sinner's
restless heart
You lead me by still waters

And so it begins!

I have been putting off doing this for a while now, but have decided to take the advice of my counselor! I guess I should since I have given her so much money! Anyway, the idea is to look at the people in my life and decide which ones I need to have in my life! I have a problem with people using me! I hate that about myself, I always try to do what is best, but i always end up being used and taken advantag of! So anyway, today was the day that I finally did it! I sat down with my list of friends and decided which ones to keep in my life! I did not know that you could make decisions like that, but I NEED to take control of my life for me and the girls! I am scared that I am a making a mistake, but that is what life is all about! Pray for me while I venture on this journey to find what it is I am looking for! On my journey to find myself, and to put GOD back in the center of my life! You have all been so supportive and encouraging, and I covet your prayers! Thank you all for the prayers and love you send this way!

A good Week!

Every once in a while a good week pops up in the Tucker House! This is one of those weeks! Emma has had a fabulous week at school this week, Abbi is loving preschool, and I am having a great work week! I would say that we are just lucky this week, but I am learning that everything happens for a reason! And by that I mean that God is blessing us over and over! I am amazed at how often over the past few months we have been blessed. here are a few examples:

Our church(awesome)
Our Friends
Our House
My job
***we have been accepted by some of the State funded programs that are helping us out right now tremendously!

Now a little bit about all of these.
*Church
We have started going to UCC in Conway, and I have been blessed by being in the presence of The Lord every time I walk into the building! It amazes me how you can feel the love in the room when you walk in. I have never in my life felt more accepted and loved by complete strangers. It has been a wonderful experience for me and the girls. I am a better mother because of it! I also have met one of my favorite people there, and could not imagine not having her in my daily life. She has been an awesome friend, and I would not have met her if we were not going thru this divorce.

*Friends
Friends have always been an important part of my life, and the girls are starting to see how wonderful it is to have great friends. At the end of last year I met one of the other motheres at Emma's school, and we started talking. Over the summer while I was working, she cared for and loved my children as she would her own. She has been a source of strength to me, she and her husband have a marriage that makes you yearn to find that true love you hear about but never see.
Tami and Thomas are amazing people, and have opened my eyes to so much! I hate to admit but growing up in the Church of Christ i have been closed minded to others in the world. Such an elitest frame of mind. They are amazing christians that share the love of God with everyone around them. They inspire me everyday. I love them. Emma and their daughter Annabelle are good friends and Abbi and Kaedyn are best buddies! So we spend a lot of time with them.

Hollie and Hank are two of my favorite people.I met them at UCC and we have become great friends. For a while Hollie was one of the only people I talked to on a daily basis. She has her head on straight and has been thru this mess before and has helped me to put one foot in front of the other in digging my way out of desparity. She and Hank are the type of people that when you meet them you are instantly at home. There is alot to be said for people who can make you feel welcomed and invited in 2 seconds flat. They are great great friends that hold very dear to my heart.
Stephanie Havens and I have been friends for 10 1/2 years, and we have been thru a lot over that time frame. Luckily our little rent house is in the same neighborhood with her and Nicky, we have always lived right down the road, but this is just the best. We still see them about the same amount of time as before, but knowing that they are right there is a blessing in its self.

*House
Who would have thought that finding a rent house that backs up to the elementary school would make me so happy! It was an amazing day when we found it. I had 3 houses lined up to move into, and they all 3 fell thru within days of each other(not a good couple of days for me) i was at such a low point that i could not stop crying. My house with Chase was sold, and we had nowhere to go. I knew we could not live with friends, with school and all of that so I panicked. You know what all good moms do! Haha I called Steph and she calmly told me to cal a properties company here in Conway that has several rent houses around town. I did not expecting anything to come from it, and when the guy called me back he had our current house available. I was so excited that I proposed to him on the phone and started crying. No worries i am not marrying my landlord(just in case you were wondering) Emma now walks to school everyday which has helped me to get her to school on time everyday! YAY No more late days! A true blessing for me.

* Job
This one is probably the biggest one where God has blessed us. I would not have thought to call and set up an interview, but my sweet Emma Claire suggested that I call them. I did and had the interview and pretty much got hired on the spot! My boss hired a single mom going thru a divorce with no money, no home, and said I believe in you. I also work from home 3 out of 4 days, with Fridays off. My hours are 8:30 - 2:30 every day so that I can have time with my kids! If God was not present in the set up of this, then I would be stuck in a 9-5 job paying for daycare, and unable to spend time that I need with my girls! Tami watches them in the afternoons and Abbi all day on Wednesday so I can work! I am telling you it is amazing!

I hope that we are able to Glorify God in all that He has done for us! I still feel unworthy of all of the blessings, but so happy to experience the True Love of God in all of its glory. Please keep us in your prayers as our journey is not quite complete thru the land of divorce. Emma and Abbi are still having a hard time with the shuffle between the two houses, and honestly with the divorce itself. They are wonderful loving little girls, who have been tremendously affected by all of this.

New Beginnings!

Emma started school Monday as a first grader! I was so excited for her bc she is in class with her little friend Annabelle, whom she spent the whole summer with. I just knew that she was gonna be loving going to school and seeing her friends, BUT I was wrong!!!

Emma has informed me that she does not like school this year because it is boring. I asked her why she said that and she said "momma it just isn't any fun. We only have one recess, AND all we do is math!! It is so not fair mom, school is totally unacceptable"

So, after I stopped laughing, she proceeded to tell me how she changed her card because she was actin silly. It was the third day of school and she had already had to pull her card!! I asked her why she did what she did, and her response this time was hilarious! "momma, it is so boring, I was trying to make it more fun for everyone, I mean come on momma! The teacher is all about math, and that is just not fun!" I sat there trying not to smile and laugh, because I could just see her snapping her fingers in a Z after she said it!

Now, I love my daughter, but she is a pistol! I am constantly amused by her and she knows it! So, for that new beginning we are needing lots of prayer. I am afraid that if already dislikes school at 6, then we are in for a tough 11 more years ahead!

Abbi Grace will be starting preschool this year, which it is a huge step for me to let her go to school knowing I am not just sitting at home waiting for her! She is my baby, and it is hard for me to let her grow up.